I Am Not A Man.
But I wish I was. So I "Transitioned" To Look Male
They are at it again over on X. There are always a group of women, usually called TERFS. Who hate me with a passion. Love making posts about me NOT being a man and just a woman who has mutilated their body. These women have no desire to see I actually support women’s rights and do not believe that “trans women are women, Trans men are men” tropes and really fight for reality and sex based space. BUT they do not care and just hate anything trans related. Though I do not identify as trans I am transsexual, I have a mental disorder and decided to “transition” 32 years ago and never looked back. I am happy, have a family, my own businesses and moves through the world trying not to create waves. BUT that does not matter to them.
So for context and why I write this right now is because a post by a TERF was put up with my photo saying “this is not a man” so I responded “Never said I was a Man” haha..which made the TERF team ( for a lack of a better term for this, even though I actually have a lot of TERF friends) decided to go and dig up old ass tweets where I said “ I am a man” or “ I am male” So now I will tell you a little story about growth and the internet.
For sure I used to say “: I am a man” when people were not pissed off at the trans community and I was younger and a bit more naive about what it meant to transition. I actually did think I was becoming a man. But as time went on and my growth of inner self through lots of therapy and deep dives I realized I am not a man but a female who transitioned their physical looks to walk the world looking like a man. This revelation of myself has been profound for me on many levels. It has not only helped me be less self conscious of others making judgment on me but also just being a human and understanding every adult should have the opportunity to grow and find their space.
I also realized what transition really meant and that I never changed my biology I changed my looks. Big difference. Even though this new scary trans movement has destroyed so much it has also really grounded me in what my purpose is and why my honesty and reality around my transition is so important not only for me but for the transsexuals of the world. Remember I made this choice as a thirty year old and have been living this way for thirty two years. That should mean something.
Honestly not making this post for the angry haters who think they caught me in a lie but more to show you that I have grown in so many ways and that I have nothing to hide from anyone about being a transsexual. I will never change everyone’s mind about my choices but that is not my goal, my ultimate goal is to be honest with myself, help save children from not making this irreversible choice until they are mature enough to understand the pros and cons as an adult. As well as women’s rights. That’s it.
Haters will hate, I have had them forever and have learned to navigate this. I think the haters are the ones who really helped me find peace within because it gave me the “balls” to realize I do not have to please you, I have to please me.
Love, Buck
Perhaps not a man, but a damn fine human being! Thank You for using your platform for awareness and good! Much love and protection to you and yours! 💜
Hi Billy thank you so much for sharing this post. You are very honest and rational and bring nuance and shades of grey to the table. I am possibly about your age? 65 and a lesbian. I have never had a sex identity crisis however I do understand how for some people this has been a defining issue in their life. To be honest I didn’t know that much about trans gender people until the last decade. Ofcourse I knew lots of men liked to dress up as women in my early days of going to gay bars in Oxford Street. Back then these guys were seen as female impersonators having fun and entertaining people. I wonder if that term is now considered politically incorrect? A lot of these people may have actually been trans but I didn’t know. I also knew plenty of masculine women however in those days they were simply butch dykes. Again sorry of that is now PI. The whole thing wasn’t as out in the open as it has been for the last couple of decades. I live in another world now and I’m a grandmother however I have been fascinated to learn that being a lesbian feminist apparently makes me a TERF. I had to look that word up to find out what it means. I am not a TERF though because I really support everyone’s right to live how they choose as long as it doesn’t hurt others. I have found out that the women being called TERFs have concerns about the medical transitioning of younger folk. They also don’t believe that someone can truly change their biological sex. I appreciate hearing from people who have transitioned because really they are the ones with lived experience of this. I think it is sad that there is currently a division between the trans movement and feminists in particular lesbians. Ultimately I believe we want largely similar things. For people to be safe, respected, supported and to be free to be themselves. As a young lesbian that is all I ever wanted. I was thinking that one of the concerns of women is the safety issue of not sharing spaces with Trans women. Then I was thinking how if you went into a women’s space now, say a female bathroom, women would probably freak out because you look like a man. Yet you were born a woman. It is all about perception. It is also very confusing and for many confronting. There in comes the division. Trans people and feminists or so called TERFs need to find common ground and work together to tease out the truth of what is really behind this division. No doubt women are threatened by men who identify as women coming into their shared spaces with good reasons. History has a way of informing our prejudices and fear. Yet somehow the argument has been taken over by corporations, greed and other malevolent interests to tear us apart when we should in reality be allies. I have been shocked to see young people screaming at women old enough to be their Mums about how awful they are. It is like these young scared confused people have been weaponised against feminists. Who is really behind this though and what is the end purpose? Something is at play here and we can only turn the tide by shining light on where it needs to be. You sound like you are trying to do this. Thanks Jazz